To me, a transition means making a change and moving forward. Sometimes the changes can be difficult to deal with and need patience. Patience can be hard to find and frustrating to practice. But, time makes patience worth the effort and rewards you for your work. Transition reminds me of when each of my kids were starting to become individuals. They were heading off to college and discovering the meaning of independence. At the same time, I was learning to let go.
We were clashing in our views and time was standing still. I was focused on me and they on themselves.No one was willing to be the bigger person. Our egos took over our relationship, our communication, and time. There was constant battling, tears and uncomfortable conversations. I had to stop thinking of my feelings and allow myself to let them breathe. I realized that when it came time to be a real adult and accountable, my own insecurities were in the way.
As moms we love control. We love to be nosy and we love attention. When all of that disappears we don’t take time to step back and realize that it’s ok. We don’t change our mindset to let it be. I realized that when I stepped back and let the Universe take over, everything fell into place. I learned to be a friend, rather than a mom. I learned to listen rather than advise. I learned to allow and not give my opinion if not asked. I learned to discover and find out about myself, so I did not live my feelings and life through my kids.
Now we are friends. We understand each other. It took time. Life isn’t always a bed of roses. All families disagree. It’s how you transition and move forward. That is the key.